Sometimes there is the feeling.
And then there is the fight against having the feeling.
Sadness — and the thought that you should be over it by now.
Fear — and frustration with yourself for being afraid.
Exhaustion — and the belief that you should still be able to do more.
One difficult experience quietly becomes two.
How much energy are you spending not only on what you feel — but on trying not to feel it?
What happens when the argument becomes quieter?
Sit with Nasia for a few minutes. You do not need to accept everything forever. Just notice what changes when you stop arguing with this moment.
The second weight
There are experiences we cannot simply think our way out of.
A feeling may already be present.
But then another layer appears:
This should not be happening.
I should not feel this way.
I need to make this disappear.
And sometimes that second layer asks even more from us than the first.
Instead of:
“How do I get rid of this?”
what happens when you ask:
“What is already here
before I decide what to do with it?”
Acceptance is not agreement
Accepting that something is present does not mean you approve of it.
It does not mean you want it to stay.
And it does not mean you have given up on change.
It may simply mean that for one moment you stop asking reality to be different before you can meet it.
Three questions to leave open.
What am I feeling — and what am I telling myself about the fact that I feel it?
Try separating the first experience from the judgement, pressure or frustration around it.Which emotions do I find easiest to allow — and which ones do I quickly try to fix, hide or outrun?
Notice whether some feelings seem more “acceptable” to you than others.If I stopped fighting this experience for one moment, what am I afraid might happen?
Would it become permanent? Overwhelm you? Mean something about who you are? Or feel like giving in?Listen for the word “should.”
The next time an uncomfortable feeling appears, notice whether a sentence follows it.
“I shouldn't still feel this.”
“I should be stronger than this.”
“I shouldn't let this bother me.”
You do not need to change the sentence yet.
Just notice: what extra weight does the “should” add to the original feeling?
Sometimes resisting a feeling is not only about the feeling itself.
We may have learned that certain emotions are dangerous, weak, inconvenient or unacceptable.
What did you learn — directly or indirectly — about the emotions you find hardest to allow?
You do not need to answer that here. The way we relate to emotion often has a history of its own.
Acceptance does not ask you to like what is here.
Sometimes it simply gives you enough space to stop turning one struggle into two.
Stay with what feels relevant.
This reflection connects with several parts of Nasia Within You. Continue wherever your attention naturally wants to go next.
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